What About That Love Partner?
by Life Coach Marcie Hunt
May I delight in my partner,
and my partner delight in me,
That Your light which unites us
Might light up the world.
Prayer from Marianne Williamson in her book Enchanted Love
Whether you are single or involved in a relationship, these
everyday relationship skills provide a simple guide to keep on
track with a love partner, or potential partner.
- Appreciate the small things. When you
tell your mate how much you appreciate their affection or
thoughtfulness, it
spurs you both on to give even more.
Sandra: "I always tell my husband how much I love him before we
go to sleep. He tells me he loves me, or how much I mean to him,
in the morning before we head out to work. Those simple phrases
always mean so much to me, and I start my day off feeling loved
and cared for."
- Be spontaneous! Life is more exciting when two people
surprise each other from time to time. If you find that you are
getting in a rut, make a date with your partner. Offer a small
gift or flowers, or take them to a special place for dinner or a
quiet spot for coffee and pastries. You can even have a
romantic evening at home, with a gourmet dinner, candlelight, and
music. Or, it might be as simple as driving to a beautiful
place to watch the sunset together.
Marcie: My husband and I started to play golf together a few
years ago. He was already an accomplished player, but I was just
a beginner. For Christmas, I opened up a gift that was a
certificate for one week together at a golf school in Las Vegas!
For me, that was a big gift, and not an inexpensive one. The real
pleasure, however, was the element of surprise, thoughtfulness
and adventure that Tom had weaved into this great gift for both
of us. Not only did we enjoy the golf school, we also spent
several fun evenings in Las Vegas trotting around visiting the
casinos and catching a show.
- Listen to your significant other, or spouse. That means truly
listening to their perspective, and allowing them to finish what
they wish to say before you speak. It is a good idea to verbalize
this method so that both of you are given the compassion and
respect to state your views.
- Talk about solutions that affect both of you. Sometimes we
repress problems, whereas talking about them with our partner can
bring a positive, mutually agreed upon, solution.
Timing is everything, of course. It's a good idea to check with
your partner about the right time for both of you to discuss an
issue that might be sensitive.
- Communicate in a loving and supportive manner. Partners are
called partners because they support and love one another. When
it really is necessary to respond with verbal anger, it's best to
avoid accusations that might hurt the other person. If you both
argue often, you may want to find a professional
relationship counselor.
If you did not receive any specific thoughts, simply be attuned to any ideas you may have about the subject during the week. You may also receive inspiration from a book or a friend-an “ah ha” feeling. If you still feel confused or un-enlightened, spontaneously write down on paper some of the beliefs or habits that you think may be inhibiting you. Give yourself a maximum of 10 minutes. You may repeat this process at any time.
- Avoid being too critical of your mate. This is not
always easy to carry out. You know if you or your partner, or
both, are often critical of one another. It is common after many
years in
a relationship to say phrases like, "You always do this..."
"Why can't you do it this way...?" Sometimes it helps to
acknowledge that none of us are perfect. Life is too short to
worry and nag about the little things. Also, putting energy into
little problems only amplifies them and causes them to build up
over time.
Share your dreams. Too often, we forget to express our hopes,
dreams, and goals to our partner. It is so vital to
help each other in supporting individual dreams, as well as
shared goals.
- Commit yourselves to being empowered. Seek self-improvement
and personal growth. Respect each person's individual activities.
Couples can balance their personal time and time together.
John: Rhonda and I have our separate activities too. She knows
that I love to fish, and it helps my stress level as well as
offering an opportunity to
enjoy nature. Rhonda gets together with girlfriends and they
go to museum exhibits or art shows. They love it, and we both
know
that the time we spend together and apart is essential for both
of us.
Take time to enjoy life as a couple. Remember, you are best
buddies, so it's important to have fun. If your time is limited,
make an effort to spend quality time together, away from work and
household duties. If you have children, you may need to make
dates and schedule time for yourselves.
- Think of each other as spiritual beings. You are on this
life journey together, and you chose each other because you are
"soulmates." If you look at each other's innate goodness of heart
and soul, your love will be renewed. Focusing on what is good and
loving about your partner will help both of you bring out the
best in each other. This is especially important as the years go
by.
MONTHLY AFFIRMATION:
" I am learning to communicate in more loving ways each day."
MONTHLY LIFE TECHNIQUE:
Here is an additional technique whenever you find that you are
not in control of a particular situation concerning your love
partner, a family situation, a child, or a teenager.
Let's say that you are unsure of activities your
teenager is involved in, or perhaps they seem troubled and
uncommunicative.
Enter a relaxed state of mind with your eyes closed. Now, imagine
the problem. As if in the present moment, mentally give your
teenager a big hug, and send feelings of love. Imagine a
golden light surrounding him or her. Sense this light as the
"wisdom light" that helps all concerned to see things more
clearly. Imagine that there is a positive solution has already
taken place. If you desire, you can add the powerful words "Thank you, Universal Spirit, for divine order in this situation." Know that the solution is
beneficial for everyone involved. Then come back to your normal
state of mind, telling yourself mentally that you are feeling
great, refreshed, and energetic. Try not to think too much about
the problem, and let it go. By letting go of frustration, worry,
or resistance, you are surrounding everyone with positive energy.
Our thoughts are indeed powerful. Yet speaking and affirming
positive uplifting words is even more powerful. Manifesting a
life we love is partially about creating the desire and the
energy to attract what we desire. Our deepest and truest desires
revolve around the very essences of life. They envelop qualities
and values such as love, joy, enthusiasm, response-ability,
compassion, loyalty, integrity, creativity, passion, adventure,
peace, balance, and spirituality.
You can print the following life affirmation, if you wish. A
wonderful way to use it is to find a quiet place and to speak the
words with your natural feelings. Really meditate on the meaning
of the words and just allow yourself to be fully in the present
moment.
Take a deep breath. As you do, breathe in life energy. As you
breathe out, simply let go of any physical tension, relaxing your
muscles, and releasing any unwanted thoughts or energy. Breathe
in again, breathing in peace and serenity. Breathe out any past
regrets, or unfinished business, exhaling this energy right out
of your body now. Taking a third breath, breathe in energy
imagining it as a pure white light flowing through your body. It
is relaxing and energizing you at the same time. This sparkling,
tingling light energy feels like an elixir, bringing healing and
renewal to every part of your body and your entire being. You can
affirm now:
I am filled with the essence of life. I am light. I am love. I
embrace all of the beauty and grace that life has to offer at
this very moment, and every day.
As the light of love fills my being now, it radiates out from my
heart. I open my heart up to all of the love and joy in the
universe now. I radiate this loving light out to others. I
practice love and acceptance of others throughout my day. I give
to myself and to others the gift of acceptance and support. I
feel more centered and peaceful. Others sense this too and are
touched by it.
I embrace life as I bless my family, friends, work, health, and
finances. I bless the joy, love, support, enthusiasm,
creativity, adventure, commitment, prosperity, and energy I have
in my life now. As I bless these qualities, they increase in my
life through the Law of Attraction.
I see my future as a reflection of all of these positive
qualities. I know that wonderful people and new opportunities are
a continuing part of my life path, and this is true.
I have faith that my life is unfolding in miraculous ways as I
speak. I help to create the life I live- and so I embrace life
and happiness fully now.
You may also visualize your life by bringing these qualities
within. By building the energy and beliefs as a solid foundation
from within, you propel and accelerate changes in your everyday
life!
MONTHLY AFFIRMATION:
"I embrace my life, which is full of joy, love and abundance."
MONTHLY LIFE TECHNIQUE:
I take time each day to bless my life. At the end of each day, I
ask myself what was positive? I affirm the positive qualities,
activities or people connected with my day. I take time to
verbally appreciate others.
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